Orgasm is a wonderful feeling, which is difficult to describe. Involving both physical and emotional spheres, it helps us reach an extreme pleasure, thrill, and relaxation. Yet, there are many facts about this phenomenon that can give you a better understanding of your body, and, consequently, the possible way to get or improve your orgasm.
What is an orgasm and how does it benefit our health?
In short, orgasm is a complex reaction of the body to sexual stimulation. It is accompanied with sexual arousal and physical pleasure. Orgasm can be reached in several ways, due to certain conditions, and it can feel differently for different people. In fact, it is a unique feeling, which is hard to compare with anything else. That’s why it is difficult to describe it to a person who has never experienced it.
What is an orgasm from a physiological point? Sexual stimulation provokes muscle contraction and endorphin hormone release, and for women, it releases oxytocin, as well. The breathing and the heartbeat accelerate, and blood pressure rises. Muscle contraction also causes ejaculation in male physiology.
Orgasm is of huge benefit for both men of women. First of all, it strengthens the immune system, which helps us resist viruses and bacteria and heals all the injuries faster. Increased blood circulation provides metabolic removal of waste and toxins. The mix of hormones protects the body from cardiovascular diseases and prevents cancer. Beside, orgasm relieves us from stress and has a relaxing effect.
Stages of sexual response
Orgasm must be the most interesting phenomenon for sexologists. At, least, it was that for researchers William Masters and Virginia Jonson. After their researches in the 1960s, they have created the Four-Phase model, which describes the stages of arousal:
- The first stage, Excitement, is characterized by the body’s preparation for sexual intercourse. The blood rushes to genitals, and physical sensation in the inguinal area become exacerbated.
- The next phase is called Plateau. It is like a springboard for orgasm. The genitals get super sensitive; the body’s responses are very intensive.
- The third phase is Orgasm. The female orgasm comes because of the stimulation of the clitoris, G point, or other sensitive areas. For men, ejaculation occurs at this point. It is followed by an immediate tension release.
- The last part is Resolution. Within a half an hour or a bit more, the increased blood flow to genitals and sensitivity cease, the organs return to their original form and position.
In 1977, psychiatrist Helen Kaplan described the sexual response as a phenomenon that consists of three connected phases:
- Desire. This phase is characterized by sexual attraction.
- Arousal. This stage combines Excitement and Plateau described in Masters & Jonson’s researches.
- Orgasm. The last stage, which is the climax of sexual intercourse.
Differenced between female and male orgasm
The principal difference of orgasm for men and women is in the duration and the way it feels. The time of sexual arousal is associated with tension for men. The male orgasm is a logical point, that brings relief. Without it, the man lacks a pleasant feeling after the arousal; moreover, it can even give physical discomfort. The female orgasm is the highest point of pleasure, and even without it, a woman has a pleasant aftertaste.
As a rule, women need more time to reach an orgasm. This time can be less than 7 minutes in very rare cases. For men, the average time between the start of the sexual act and orgasm is 3 minutes if the man does not try to postpone this moment.
How to understand that you had an orgasm?
The male orgasm always goes with ejaculation, so there is no difficulty for men to understand if they had reached that point. Yet, it may be more difficult for women. There are certain physiological signs that indicate if a girl had reached orgasm:
- Muscle contraction. Orgasm causes throbbing constriction of vaginal and anal muscles and intense abdominal muscles tension.
- The female orgasm is followed by deep relaxation. For a few minutes after the climax, the woman does not want to do anything physically, even to continue the sexual act.
- Discomfort when touching the clitoris. If the woman has had a clitoral orgasm, this organ became extra sensitive after the peak of pleasure. Any touching causes unpleasant sensations or even pain.
Inability to have an orgasm
Women more often face the problem with orgasm than men do since the male orgasm is a prerequisite for ejaculation. The problems that do not allow people to reach the peak of sexual pleasure may be both psychological and physiological.
Primary anorgasmia is a dysfunction when a woman has never had an orgasm. Such a problem often occurs due to psychological reasons and can be solved with the help of a sexologist and psychologist. Secondary anorgasmia occurs due to gynecological problems, certain medical treatment, or a psychologically traumatic circumstance.
The male orgasm dysfunction can be caused by heart diseases, depression, anxiety, and also antidepressant treatment.
The most popular myths about orgasm
Vaginal orgasm is the correct one
The clitoris is the most sensitive genital area, and most of the women reach the sexual climax due to clitoral stimulation. It does not affect the intensity of the sensation.
The inability to experience vaginal orgasm is frigidity
It is quite normal to feel the female orgasm only in one way. The people who think it is necessary to “get the whole collection” to be not frigid are mistaken. Those women who get to the pleasure top only with clitoral stimulation also enjoy sex.
The size of the penis defines female orgasm
The main zone of vaginal stimulation is at a depth of two inches, so the size really doesn’t matter.